|GRASP (Grief Recovery After a Substance Passing) was created to help provide resources of help, compassion and, most of all, understanding, for families who have had a loved one die through drugs.
Those who are left behind find their grief is overpowering. The sudden passing is nothing that had been planned for, because as long as the person was alive, there was still hope.
But where to turn? Society has grieving groups for when a child has died from illness, accident, suicide, even murder. But, oddly, there is little help available for those who have lost a loved one through drugs.
We welcome suggestions and input, especially resource materials we can add to the web page, and we encourage your comments
GRASP is for all who have had loved ones slip away and to ease the pain in any way for those left to cope.
For a GRASP chapter near you - (click here)
Treasure precious moments. Remember the love.
Discover peace within. Have faith. Seize hope.
Draw on Inner strength. Release fear. Let yourself cry
Take comfort in friends. Be patient with yourself.
Trust in tomorrow. Attend your needs.
Ask for help. Let others give. Trust enough to take.
Lean on others. Know people care.
Feel the warmth of friendship. Be circled by love.
Vow to move forward. Know the sun will shine.
Behold new life. See the light ahead.
Look ahead with confidence. Celebrate the dawn.
TOOLS FOR COPING
When you are experiencing a major loss, illness, death, separation or any life change, here are some tools for coping with the everyday thoughts, feelings and realities of living.
Be gentle with your own feelings and thought process. Avoid self judgment. Don't put "I should have" on yourself.
Find a supportive person or persons you can trust. Share your honest feelings and ideas.
Give yourself time for healing. The timing of grief cannot be rushed. Plan your day so that you have specific time to focus on your loss, and special time to escape from the pain of the reality of what you
When you experience fear, anger, helplessness, sorrow, pain, emptiness, isolation, depression, relief - it can be very confusing.
Questions to ask yourself as you focus:
How do I feel right now? (Check body sensations, as well as thoughts and emotions.)
- What do I need right now? (Focus on immediate, attainable needs.)
- How can I meet, of get a supportive friend to help me meet, these needs right now?
Try to maintain as "regular" a schedule as possible. Avoid unrealistic expectations or goals for yourself.
Maintain an awareness of your body's needs for nutrition and rest. If symptoms arise that are new to you, see a physician.
One book which we found helpful and have since given out to others is:
"Living When a Loved One Has Died." by Earl A. Grossman
For children, especially siblings, this whole grieving process can not only be hurtful but confusing, and even frightening. Often death is puzzling to them, and they wonder where they now in within the sadness of parents.
Pat recently read three books, written especially for the 6 to 10 year olds, which explain emotions at this time:
"Badger's Parting Gifts" by Susan Varley
"Miss You" by Pat Thomas
"When someone Very Special Dies" by Marge Heegaard
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